In this process, past images of interactions with the departed members are mentally recreated, reenacted, and reexamined. There is a tendency to recall the positive attributes of the deceased and to minimize or even repress the negative characteristics.

This process of selective memory eventually results in a highly idealized and distorted conception of the dead. This process, also known as "sanctification," can become problematic when the survivor spouse attempts to establish new relationships or seeks to remarry.

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